To the Anon who asked if sex really is the greatest thing in the world (Sorry, since your question was multiple asks I can’t really publish them together. Also if you want me to answer in more detail and private, you’ll have to send me an ask non-anonymously):
Sex is pretty great, especially with a person you’re very attracted to it’s very amazing and satisfying! But it’s definitely not the greatest thing in the world like it’s made out to be, at least for me. It ranks up there and is amongst my favorite things in life (but definitely not THE most favorite), but I think overall sex is overrated.
Like you said, the media, advertisement, games, everything is bombarding us with the idea of sex and how mind-blowingly amazing it is. And that often it’s the most important thing ever (or at least the driving force behind a storyline or something). Or like if someone doesn’t have had sex yet, that they’re missing out on something huge or that they’re somehow a loser. Or how the first time is always this super amazing magical thing, where both know what they’re doing and both have orgasms (even simultaneously!) and know exactly what their partner wants and likes. Please.
That’s definitely not true, and sex is kinda overhyped in mainstream media (and often misplaced, l dislike pointless and unnecessary side storylines about romance or sex in an action movie or a drama series, for example. It’s different if they are relevant to the whole story or a character arc, but a lot of times it’s just there because sex and love-triangle stuff sells. And it shows.) Which is funny, coming from someone who draws porn. Obviously sexuality is a very big thing in my life and it’s something very important to me and I’m very sex-positive. And I absolutely love sexy stuff. I have drawn porn hanging on my walls and everything. But the actual act of sex itself isn’t the ultimate answer to all questions and the one thing every human should aspire to achieve. Don’t be stressed out if you haven’t had sex yet, it’s not a measurement on how much you’re worth.
I hope that helped! Ah so many people asking for advice or my thoughts on something, I feel like I should open a separate blog for that. Ratvice or something! I hope I’m not annoying you guys who’re just here for the colorful smut. I like sharing my thoughts and trying to be helpful!