Rat's Saucy Nest

askbraeburned:

I’d say not to look for love. Instead, look for friends.

If you go looking for love, every little relationship you enter will have that pressure of an end goal. So make friends instead! Not aloof perfect gorgeous beings you want to see yourself married to, but people who you like hanging out and playing video games with. People you can walk around with in Walmart for an hour and have a surprisingly great time. Work to make friends, not potential future lovers. Then later, maybe that friend you’ve had forever actually ends being the one you wanna be with.

So, yeah! Don’t start by flirting, don’t start by sorting by appearance. Start by finding people you just naturally like talking to, I think!

Can confirm. I found love when I stopped looking for it. Friends are also more valuable than potential romantic interests. And it’s definitely not too rare that love develops out of a close friendship. Just don’t go into a friendship hoping for it to develop into a romantic relationship.

As for the Walmart part, that’s what struck a chord with me and made me reblog this. I realized I found someone really special in the woman I ended up marrying when we were walking around in a Walmart at midnight and were having an amazing time. And to this day, every time we go grocery shopping or doing some other mundane everyday life stuff we’re still having a great time. Because I got married to one of my best friends. And seriously, when a friendship doesn’t end up turning into a romantic relationship, that’s no loss at all. You’ll have something invaluable and powerful, a real friendship.

I never quite understood the people who formed a romantic relationship with someone they wouldn’t want to be friends with in the first place. And sadly that’s awfully common.

Brae giving A1 life advice, as usual!